Cuckolding 101 - Logistics

Cuckolding is a great fantasy. If the guy’s a bit off his game and having trouble performing, his wife or girlfriend only has to say, ‘The man I was with last night didn’t have this problem.’ Immediately, he’s focussed, on point and – most importantly – he’s hard. Just a couple of words about infidelity is often enough to revive a dying dick and add a bit of aggression to a guy’s technique.

But what if you try to turn the fantasy into reality? Hopefully, it won’t happen to you like it did to me. If you read my blog Clare’s Cuckold, you’ll know I didn’t get any warning or time to prepare. Clare arrived home one morning and announced she’d had sex with another guy. So technically, she didn’t cuckold me that time. She cheated on me. And that’s not me being a language pedant. The crucial difference is that cuckolding is when a couple in a committed relationship agree that the woman should have sex with other men.

There are things to remember if you’re turning fantasy into reality. Some of these are based on what happened to me, others on what I wish had happened differently.

Agree you’ll never use cuckolding as a weapon if you’re having a fight. In the middle of a blazing row, it might be tempting to say, ‘You had sex with another man,’ or, ‘If you really loved me, you’d never let me fuck other guys.’ Don’t go there! If you agree freely to this, you can’t then shift the goalposts and act like you’re morally outraged or like you’ve been forced into something.

Set the parameters in advance. Who is fair game as a potential sex partner and who isn’t? I’d say anyone with a family connection is right out. Christmas dinner is stressful enough without knowing your brother is hung like a zebra and fucked your wife for two hours without a break. You’re also asking for trouble if it’s a friend or co-worker. Your boss being your girlfriend’s dominant lover is a popular trope in erotic fiction, but makes team meetings uncomfortable. Clare did go with a guy from work. I’ll be talking about some of the problems that caused in a later Clare’s Cuckold instalment. Meeting a stranger in a bar sounds uncomplicated. But the trouble there is the guy won’t know it’s a cuckolding scenario. If she asks him back to her place, he’ll think his luck’s in and probably won’t be happy when he hears someone else is going to watch. The best place to go is a dedicated website where bulls meet cuckolds and hot wives. Sure, you’ll have to sift through a lot of timewasters and people who just want to see nude photos before you find someone you want to meet but at least you’ll all start on the same page about what sort of set-up this is.

Then when you do finally meet someone, make sure it’s in a public place where you have an easy exit. Don’t meet for dinner. If you feel uncomfortable with someone, you don’t want to hang around waiting for your main course to arrive. Meet for a drink. If you have to run for the door, the most you’ve wasted is the price of three small Chardonays.

If everyone gets on well, you can discuss the dos and don’ts. We’ll discuss all of these in more depth in a later post. But here are a few basics. Is the husband/boyfriend going to watch? Is the bull happy with that? Should the bull be friendly and respectful or masterful and dominating. Is the bull going to stay the night or leave straight afterwards?

Once you’ve agreed all this, it’s time for the couple to make the decision. Do they tell the bull: Come Home With Us?